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Times have changed, and that is a good thing—especially the fading-away of cruel taboos that once stigmatized women who engaged in premarital sex or bore children out of wedlock. Thing is, times change for a reason. The values question assumes that sexual mores loosen naturally from conservative to liberal. In reality, these values have ebbed and flowed throughout history, often in conjunction with prevailing sex ratios. But the problem is a demographic one. Multiple studies show that college-educated Americans are increasingly reluctant to marry those lacking a college degree. This bias is having a devastating impact on the dating market for college-educated women. According to population estimates from the U.

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All marriages are mixed marriages. Catholics know this. It does not matter if both partners are committed Roman Catholics, were even raised in.

My husband’s father and mother are Jews. My parents are both what Mr. Hitler would be pleased to call ‘Aryan’ Germans. I am an American-born girl, and the first to defend my Americanism in an argument; yet so strong are family ties, and the memory of a happy thirteen-month sojourn in the Vaterland a few years ago, that I frequently find myself trying to see things from the Nazis’ point of view and to find excuses for the things they do—to the dismay of our liberal-minded friends and the hurt confusion of my husband.

Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father’s quick brown eyes and my yellow hair. Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family. He had known other girls and, as I was twenty-five before we married, I had had my share of other men’s attention.

Why would anyone care if Yair Netanyahu is dating a Gentile?

I was riding the train with my friend Catherine a few weeks ago, returning to Long Island from a day in Manhattan. Her boyfriend Josh had just broken up with her the day before. The two had started dating while we were still in college, a few weeks before summer break, and she thought things were going well. If you get into a discussion with someone who was raised religiously, you may find that you reach an impasse very quickly.

I should know; I was raised in an Orthodox community and my father is a rabbi. I would like to share my own experiences, without passing judgment on anyone on any side of the interdating issue.

Benjamin Netanyahu has been criticised by right-wing politicians in Israel who have accused the country’s prime minister of failing to set an.

In considering issues relating to the conversion of non-Jews to Judaism, Orthodox Jews tend to defend a strict policy that we term the halakhic approach [one that strictly follows traditional Jewish law]. Conversion for the sole purpose of marriage is highly discouraged. Conversion when the non-Jew does not intend to observe halakhah in full is generally considered to be no conversion at all. Rabbi Melech Schachter, in a fine article on conversion, states what most Orthodox Jews believe:.

The traditional stringency is not the only halakhically valid approach available to us; on the contrary, this may be the proper time to rely on other halakhic standards. No one will argue that conversion to Judaism for other than spiritual reasons is ideal. Certainly it should be discouraged. However, in terms of practical reality we may have to be more tolerant of such conversions.

In his response, Rabbi Uziel opens with a quotation from the Shulhan Arukh Yoreh Deah, , which states that we must examine a potential convert to determine if his motives for accepting Judaism are sincere. Certainly, the ideal is not to convert those who are insincere. Then Rabbi Uziel adds that since in our generation intermarriage is common in civil courts, we are often forced to convert the non-Jewish partner in order to free the couple from the prohibition of intermarriage.

We must also do so in order to spare their children who would otherwise be lost to the Jewish fold. If we are faced with a de facto mixed marriage we are permitted to convert the non-Jewish spouse and the children, when applicable. If this is true when a couple is already married, it is obviously true before they have begun a forbidden marriage relationship.

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It would be normal for him to be fairly disconnected at his age; having children pulls most of us back into religious communities. For me, it was my marriage to a Jewish man that motivated me to convert to Judaism. I wanted our family to be unified in our practice. As I got more involved, I developed friendships and connections that have drawn me deeply into my Jewish identity and practice.

Does intermarriage lead to assimilation and weaken the Jewish community? Or is it a way for a religion that traditionally does not seek converts to.

For those who see intermarriage as an epidemic threatening the Jewish community and interfaith dating as the first step to intermarriage, the decision was troubling. But for others, the move was simply an acknowledgment of prevailing norms among young non-Orthodox American Jews, many of whom were themselves raised in interfaith families. Such attitudes were not limited to unaffiliated Jewish teens; rather, most of these articles focused on teens who were active in Jewish life, whether through youth groups, Jewish summer camps, or Jewish sports competitions like the Maccabi Games.

In , the Wilkes-Barre, Pa. Somewhat over one-half, however, rejected the possibility of intermarriage. Three decades later , Brandeis University surveyed 1, participants in four regional JCC Maccabi Games, finding, among other things, that the majority of Jewish teenagers wanted to marry a Jewish partner but did not object to dating non-Jews:. In contrast to adults, the teens made a distinction between dating and marrying within the religion.

More than half the teens surveyed — or 52 percent — said marrying someone Jewish is very important to them while only 37 percent said that exclusively dating Jews is of equal importance. A study of teens whose families belonged to Conservative synagogues — the demographic that USY serves — also found relatively high levels of comfort with interdating.

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Jump to navigation. A prominent Conservative rabbi asked his Massachusetts congregation to consider allowing him to preside at weddings between Jews and non-Jews as long as the couples were committed to raising Jewish children. Unlike rabbis in Reform Judaism, the largest American stream of Judaism, Conservative rabbis may not preside at interfaith marriages. Schonfeld notes that Gardenswartz and members of his congregation quickly deemed his intermarriage proposal unworkable.

In a religion whose adherents number fewer than 15 million worldwide and whose children feel increasingly free to choose whether or not they will produce a next generation of committed Jews, changes regarding marriage can be fraught with emotion. The intention, Shapiro said, was to make the language more inclusive out of respect to USY leaders who have a non-Jewish parent—not to make it more acceptable for USY leaders to date non-Jews.

By the late s, 47 percent of Jews who were marrying chose a non-Jewish spouse. Although no national survey has been conducted since the National.

On paper, it makes sense. This is a disaster for Jewish continuity. We will assimilate ourselves out of existence. But real life can get in the way of theory. We all know people who are per cent Jewish but who have zero interest in either Judaism or Jewishness and no feelings of connection with their fellow Jews. The beautiful tapestry of Jewish civilisation — our literature, our music, our humour and our food — these treasures built up over millennia leave them cold.

There are Jews with just one Jewish parent who identify very strongly indeed. And then there are those with backgrounds like mine. For me, being Jewish is not about the illusory purity of the matrilineal line or the biography of the person with whom you make children. They feel as Yiddishe as I do. It is in our psyche and the marrow of our bones. Jewish continuity happens in myriad ways. Rivka Bond understands.

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Intermarried Jews three times less likely to raise children in the religion, according to Institute for Jewish Policy Research report. More than a quarter of Jews in the UK who are married or cohabiting have non-Jewish partners, fuelling concerns within the community about loss of identity, according to a report. The trend is being mitigated by a proportional increase in ultra-Orthodox Jews in the community, among whom intermarriage is extremely rare.

Mixed couples are much less likely to raise their children as Jewish or observe Jewish customs such as lighting candles at the start of Shabbat, it said.

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American Jews have been debating the impact of intermarriage for decades. Does intermarriage lead to assimilation and weaken the Jewish community? Or is it a way for a religion that traditionally does not seek converts to bring new people into the fold and, thereby, strengthen as well as diversify the Jewish community? The new Pew Research Center survey of U.

Jews did not start this debate and certainly will not end it. For example, the survey shows that the offspring of intermarriages — Jewish adults who have only one Jewish parent — are much more likely than the offspring of two Jewish parents to describe themselves, religiously, as atheist, agnostic or nothing in particular. In that sense, intermarriage may be seen as weakening the religious identity of Jews in America.

Yet the survey also suggests that a rising percentage of the children of intermarriages are Jewish in adulthood.

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Stay up to date on events, institutes, fellowships, and new digital content from the Tikvah Center. A half-century after the rate of Jewish intermarriage began its rapid ascent in the United States, reaching just under 50 percent by the late s, many communal spokesmen appear to have resigned themselves to the inevitable. Some speak in tones of sorrow and defeat.

For others, the battle is over because it should be over. The real threat, according to this view, emanates from those who stigmatize intermarried families as somehow deficient; with a less judgmental and more hospitable attitude on the part of communal institutions, many more intermarried families would be casting their lot with the Jewish people.

While documentation and discussion of out-marriage rates among heterosexual Jews is widespread, very little such analysis exists for inter-group partnering.

He had some luck meeting women through Internet dating sites like AmericanSingles. Then he found what he now considers an online gold mine — JDate, a Web site that bills itself as “the largest Jewish singles network. Although he is Catholic by birth and upbringing, Mr. Coppola has long preferred to date Jewish women. I thought I’d go with the odds. Coppola is one of a growing number of gentiles who have lately signed on to JDate, which was established in as a service for bringing Jews together.

The number of non-Jews on the site is difficult to estimate: 50, of its , members identify themselves as religiously “unaffiliated,” but they include Jewish members who don’t want to identify themselves as “secular” or with any particular sect.

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